Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
1 Corinthians 13:4
When we look at the example of love in the Bible, God tells us just how love should be. We are to be patient with one another. We are to be kind to one another. We are not supposed to boast or be proud.
What does that mean to you in your marriage?
I will tell you what that means to me and my marriage!
To me, it means that we are to offer each other grace and mercy. We are are to grow together and support each other when times get hard. When one faces a challenge we work on it together to see a resolve with each other.
Marriage is hard. It is not like playing house when you are little. There are going to be days that you cannot wait to see the other person as soon as they walk through the door from work. Then there will be days that you want to lock yourself in your room away from them. Some days you may not even like your spouse!!
What do you do when love gets messy?
Did you know that the divorce rate in the US is at the highest it has ever been? It is so easy to go in, divide things up, and walk away. Gone are the days when we go in, and work things out. I am betting there are more divorce lawyers listed in your Yellow Pages than there are marriage councilors. Why? Why do we just call it quits instead of working things out? Because it gets messy!!! We are taught to value ourselves above our partners. We are taught that we should always be happy. We see day in and day out that you can get married and divorced in under 24 hours. Who teaches us what to do when things get hard?
Growing up my parents were divorced. I didn’t see much on how to react when times get hard. When my husband and I married I went in not knowing what to do or how to react. I prayed!! I prayed a lot. I read books. But above that, I have practiced what the Bible told me to do. I try to be patient, kind, keep from boasting, and try to remain humble. This doesn’t mean that my marriage is perfect. It doesn’t mean that it is easy. It means that I have chosen to let The Lord lead my marriage. I have chosen not to give up and give in when times are hard.
Recently I was chosen to be a part of a launch group for a new book written by author Darlene Schacht of Time Warp Wife. This book has me captivated. I am still in the first half but cannot put it down!