In today’s society we are bombarded day after day with ads telling us what our children “need” to succeed.
I don’t know about you, but some days I get overwhelmed at the thought of making sure my kids “have it all”. But, then I stop and think, other than food, water and shelter what do our children “need”?
Do they need the newest iPod? No.
What about that program that is guaranteed to teach our babies to read by 18months? No!
How about that $200 pair of shoes? No!
Society may tell us they need these things (and more!) but honestly what our children NEED most usually don’t cost a thing.
5 Things Our Children Need
Our children need our time, every day! I don’t agree with “quality time is more important than quantity time”. I think children need both.
They need to know that their parents are there for them all the time. We need to show them that we value the time we spend with them by not having our noses in our iPhones, or our eyes on the TV screen.
If we do not have the “time” to spend quality time with our children everyday then honestly, we are too busy on things that don’t really matter.
This quote by Kirk Cameron really resonates with me:
“Hope does not begin at the Oval Office, it begins at the dinner table as you and I teach our children the truths of God, as we pray with them and we live out the life we want them to emulate . . . hope is found in the hearts of people who are loving and walking in the ways of God.”
Family meals are something every household should have. We can choose to at least once or twice a week say NO to anything outside of our homes and say YES to spending dinner with our family. Also, try to make the dinner table a no phone zone.
Unconditional love is something our child should know that we have for them.
As parents we should strive to instill in our children that there is NOTHING they could do that would make us not love them.
When I was a kid we were outside all the time, playing, and having fun! Our kids still need this! Children don’t need us entertaining them every day. They don’t need every single thing to be a “learning opportunity”. They need you to open the door and send them outside!
Children don’t need a lot of toys to go and play, all the need is an imagination.
Teaching our children to work and be responsible for their things at a young age is very important.
Depending on the age of your child start giving them chores or tasks that need to be accomplished each day. This teaches them responsibility, and that is a quality that will stay with them for the rest of their life.
Even toddlers can learn to pick up their toys and clothes.
So, what do children really need?
It is not a house full of things. That cannot make a child feel happy or loved. They need their parents, shelter, food, time to play, and encouraging words. Don’t let the world tell you there is more to raising a child, give them love, raise them right, and remember that you are doing a great job!
Is there anything you would add to this list?