Encouraging sibling unity between your children may sound like a pipe dream, but it can be done! I have a bit of a secret weapon.
Today I want to share with you some tips on encouraging sibling unity.
Parenting is likely one of the hardest, if not the hardest, jobs on earth. There is no manual or directions to follow. There is no list or check boxes that you get on the day you bring that wrinkled, red, chubby baby home. Most likely you are full of expectations and desires on how you want the future to be.
Then comes along a sibling for your precious bundle of joy. You envision your children sitting around the table building with blocks, coloring, and sweetly singing together. Then BOOM reality hits you square in the face. Your children most likely don’t get along.
No, am I wrong? I can’t be the only parent who has children who would rather argue with one another than to eat ice-cream.
After all of the shouting matches and tears I decided that something had to change. My children needed a good old heart lesson.
What is sibling unity?
Sibling unity is not the picture perfect idea of your children always being loving and kind to one another. Instead it is your children working together, being productive, and kind to one another.
It is very hard for your children to know how to do those things if they have never been taught what it means to have good character. While we do teach our children most things from example, it is important that we take the time to teach their hearts. We need to be sure that we are showing them that getting along with one another is more than just being nice.
Like I said before, most of the time our children do learn by example. If they see us being kind they are more likely to be kind. However, it is human to want things “our way” and to argue and fight with others until we get it. This doesn’t mean that we aren’t showing them good behavior or being good role models, it means that we need to take the time to teach our children good character.
Having good character means that you have good mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual. Take a minute and sit down and really think about what that means to you. What do you think about when you think of someone having good character?
When we teach our children what it means to have good character we teach them how to be kind and loving to one another. That in turn will help your children get along with one another – creating unity!
You may be sitting there wondering how in the world it is that you are supposed to teach your children good character. This is something that I was struggling with. I knew how I wanted my children to behave and to get along with one another I just didn’t know how to teach them to do that. That is why I created My Character Matters. I needed a straight forward approach to teaching my children about the good character traits they needed to learn and then how to implement them in their own lives.
When we take the time to teach our children’s hearts their minds have no choice but to match up. Your children will know not only why they should be loving but will be able to see those traits in others.